What Can I Say?

Waiting for someone to reply to you can sometimes feel like an eternity.  Coming up with the perfect reply can sometimes be torturous.  For a long while I've felt like I've had so much to share but didn't know quite how to articulate it.  In a span of about 2 years, I'd gone under an enormous mental and spiritual  transformation.  Suddenly, my job wasn't my job and many of my friends weren't my friends anymore.  What originally felt like a nightmare quickly became the catalyst that brought my creative juices back to the forefront of my life; a rebirth if you will.  Through it all I learned a very valuable lesson: choose yourself first.


Whether it's a relationship, a job or a member of your family, toxicity can be debilitating. It can squelch your dreams, kill your confidence and make you feel like you're on autopilot. Sometimes it's painfully obvious that you have found yourself in a toxic situation. Other times it can be a little harder to pinpoint.

I would encourage you to take inventory of the places, people and activities that you surround yourself with the most.  How do you feel after spending time in these environments?  If you can honestly say that you feel energized, then that's wonderful.  But if you find yourself feeling drained, upset or ill then it's time to make some changes.

I realize that it's not always practical to immediately cut off the source of toxicity in your life, but you can definitely make modifications to how you react in them.  For me, making modifications amid toxicity became a learned behavior and something that I had to practice.

Ridding yourself of toxic people, environments and habits can be extremely liberating.  For me, it has opened up a path to be able to do some of the things that I've always wanted to do.  I've rediscovered my love for DIY endeavors and have completed several projects within my home.

I've spent loads of time in solitude (pre-COVID-19), ghosted some of my social media platforms (shouldn't be a surprise there), did some traveling and treated myself like a queen (I deserved).  I challenge you to identify the toxic areas in your life and then do your best to exterminate them.  Thank me later.