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Thursday, July 30, 2015
Thursday, July 16, 2015
The dreaded “Friend Zone” … the place where romantic aspirations go to die, or do they? Over the years, I have heard men and women alike complaining about being delegated to the Friend Zone. Let me share a story:
I had met a young man who was interested in me and had asked for my number. Because I was also interested, I obliged. During the first week of getting to know this guy, it was evident that he was in a hurry to be in a relationship. While I liked this guy, entering a relationship so quickly didn’t seem like such a good idea. But because I was interested, I used our time to learn as much about him as I could. When he realized that I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship with him (we had only been talking for less than 2 weeks), he became upset and declared that I was putting him in the “Friend Zone”. I told him that if he ever planned on entering into a relationship with me that I prefer that we get to know each other and become friends first. Almost immediately, his attitude toward me changed and he was no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with me. His actions told me that he was more interested in being in a relationship than actually getting to know me as a person. Honestly, if he was willing to give our friendship a chance to flourish, I’m pretty sure that I would have become ready to be in a relationship with him. But, we never got that chance.
So is being in the friend zone such a terrible thing? I think it’s quite the opposite.