I am a single mother.
My son knows his father, but his father and I have never really raised
our son as a unit. I remember one Father’s
Day about ten years ago when someone I knew greeted me with “Happy Father’s
Day!” At first I was puzzled, but then I
quickly realized that she was referring to me
as my son’s father because single parents are often said to have to be “both mom
and dad”.
At the time I thought that being wished a Happy Father’s Day was a fair acknowledgement because let’s face it—I was doing the vast majority of the parenting to our son. But as I grew in my journey of motherhood I began to realize that just as a man could never be a substitute for my role as a parent, I could never be my son’s father. Sure, being a single parent means most of the time you’re performing all the duties that parenting entails on your own. I can raise my son with good morals and values; but as a woman I don’t know how to teach my son how to be a man.
Til this day, I still receive happy Father’s Day wishes, and
I know it comes from people who care about me and who know the struggle that single
parenthood can bring. While I
respectfully appreciate this acknowledgement, I’m wise enough to know that
Father’s Day is not my day. No amount of
parenting can convert me into my son’s father.
The love that I receive from my son on a daily basis is enough
recognition for the job that I do as a mother that lasts all year long.At the time I thought that being wished a Happy Father’s Day was a fair acknowledgement because let’s face it—I was doing the vast majority of the parenting to our son. But as I grew in my journey of motherhood I began to realize that just as a man could never be a substitute for my role as a parent, I could never be my son’s father. Sure, being a single parent means most of the time you’re performing all the duties that parenting entails on your own. I can raise my son with good morals and values; but as a woman I don’t know how to teach my son how to be a man.
4 comments:
Your a great mom Miss Honey B!
Tysha--Thank you, likewise!!
πππ well said! And yes indeed it is hard to teach a boy how to be a man! Love you blog girlllll!!!! ππ Lacky
Lacky, Thank you love!!!
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